I’m here to help you live confidently, contribute meaningfully, and feel calm, in control, and poised at all times — no matter what

 
 
 

That's a tall order, I know.

We all want that Simone Biles level of confidence — the ability to overcome fears, set boundaries, and prioritize your needs in the face of societal expectations.

Or at least the ability to speak up in meetings without freezing in panic or being talked over by our colleagues.

And it would be cool if you were completely at ease in 1:1 meetings with your boss, stopped automatically saying YES, and had the courage to ask for what you need to do your best work.

Right?

How about finding clarity on your larger goals, instead of getting bogged down in the day-to-day tasks?

Or taking time to think about what you really want in life. Your purpose. 

I know firsthand how hard this can be.

 

Throughout my career, I tended to be the youngest person in the room, the only woman in the room, and the most dismissed person in the room.

As an engineer, I discovered a significant error in the logistics of the design — an error that would make it impossible to manufacture consistently with high quality. 

I communicated my concern to my boss, and . . . nothing happened.  But when I brought it up to an older male peer, he checked the design and confirmed I was right. The next day, I walked by my boss’s office and overheard my peer telling him the exact same things I had said the day before. The boss agreed.

My peer was promoted.

Later, I switched to working in education.

My students were stressed out with mandated weekly tests, so I asked for a meeting with the Vice Principal and painted a picture of where they could be if they were given a little more time between tests. I suggested changes I knew would work and the stress level in the classroom went down, confidence went up, and test scores rose, too.

I’ve worked in many jobs, and every time I was able to advocate for myself, I was happier with my work and produced better results. That said…

ADVOCATING FOR YOURSELF ISN’T EASY.

 
 

It can seem like we’re up against a lot when we feel unheard and lost in the crowd.

But always, we are up against our own

 
 
 
 
 

And we all know what those sound like.

“If I’m direct and focused, they’ll think I’m too assertive”
“If I ask for what I need, I’ll sound needy“
“If I set boundaries, they’ll think I’ don’t work hard”
“If I ask a question, they’ll think I’m incompetent”

 
 

And, if you don’t say anything, you’ll be criticized for never taking initiative.

I know firsthand how easy it is to fall into the trap of “I can’t win,” where you lose your joy, your spark, and your ability to create the positive impact you’re here to make.

Unless you stop the cycle. And that’s an inside job.

What we do is part communication, part confidence, part boundary-setting, and a big heaping dose of unpacking the stories you tell yourself about why you can’t go after what you want.

Context

We’ll tackle the core fears keeping you quiet and bring to life the vision you have for your career.

Questions

We will start with wholehearted questions to help you peel back the layers of what isn’t working and why.

Plan

We will explore your answers and form a plan to help you move past those pesky limits.

In my career journey, I have learned the hard way to be a strong self-advocate, and I know that — even though it’s hard — you can do this too. 

I can also tell you what is on the other side.

Because once you learn how to communicate your value, stand up for what you need, and establish boundaries, you will…

  • Feel liberated, able to walk away if you need to with no regrets (even if you don’t have your next job lined up yet).

  • Feel confident in who you are, and your ability to be the real you — you with a voice, a style, values and ideas all your own. No more comparing yourself with others or feeling less-than.

  • Marie-Kondo your life — if something doesn’t spark joy, reevaluate it’s presence. That includes jobs, other people’s expectations, stories and beliefs, stress, worries, self-doubts, and anything else that’s been holding you back.

  • Move forward feeling like nothing is stopping you, with no voice in your head louder than your own.

And it feels great.

 
 

 A few fun facts about me

  • Compassion, kindness and acceptance of others are my core values. I’d love to live in a world where everyone can be 100% themselves without fear of judgement.

  • My grandfather had a big impact on my life — he didn’t let anything stop him, not people, not rules. The man didn’t understand limits. If he wanted to do something, he went and did it. We could all use a bit of that energy!

  • I’ve had jobs in math, engineering and tech — so you can tell, I love numbers and am process-oriented. But, I actually went to culinary school to escape the numbers. I realized that baking is essentially chemistry on crack, because precise measuring is important.

  • I have 2 doodles and a poodle that I groom myself with no classes (just get in there and do it - that’s my motto!) and 11 chickens. I love my girls, but I am so tired of eggs I give them away to my neighbors.

 

Truly Poised Values

Inclusivity

Everyone is welcome here. I’ve experienced being the outsider, so inclusivity is important to me. I’m here to support you in being the truest form of yourself. 

Come as you are

I am straightforward, open and transparent, and you can be too. This is a great place to be exactly who you are, even if you don’t feel like you can be 100% you anywhere else. Yet.

Respect

I will respect your time, your opinions, and your experiences. A judgement-free space is important so you can feel free to express your whole self. That’s what this is really about.